Exposed: The great workaholic lie!

workaholic

Workaholics are not really workaholics.

It’s never work, which the so-called workaholic is addicted to. Instead, they’re hooked on the feelings that come from doing something they love. That passion and joy is what inspires them all day, every day.

When you do something you love, it’s natural to want to keep doing it.

  • It’s why Nile Rodgers still creates and performs.
  • It’s why Arnold Schwarzenegger is still making movies.
  • It’s why Bill Gates is still making a difference.

ALL of those guys are in their 60’s. NONE of them need the money. What they do need, are the feelings associated with their “work”.

Conversely, someone who finds their work frustrating, boring or stressful, pays to go on vacation… to get away from work. They spend a tiny amount of time each year, doing what they love. They have the equation completely the wrong way around.

No one is addicted to meaningless work

If you get paid for doing what you love, you may be a passion-aholic. You could be a joy-aholic or even a pleasure-aholic. But you’re not a workaholic. No one is addicted to working, just for the sake of work.

  • Work without meaning is a way to pay the bills.
  • Work without meaning is empty.
  • Work without meaning leaves you doing things you don’t want to do, for the majority of your adult life.

If work feels like work for too many days in a row, switch sides. Join us!

Become a passion-aholic. Find what you love and make that your “work”. Transform your business from something you work in, to something that fills you with joy and passion… every day.

Can you do it? Yes, yes you can. I know because I’ve helped business owners worldwide to make it happen and experienced it in my own life since 1995. All you need is the right strategy and the courage to put it into place.

If you do that, I promise you will never work another day in your life.

Everything you need is within your reach

business development, business growth,

No matter what you want to achieve. No matter what situation you are in… everything you need is within your reach.

The books you need are within your reach

There are countless books, written by people who have overcome whatever challenges you are facing. Many of the classics are available for free online, such as Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

You can download a full, legal copy of the book using that link.

The ideas you need are within your reach

Great ideas are easier for you to access today than at any point in history. The Internet gives you instant access to insights from the greatest minds that have ever lived. And all without leaving your chair!

Careful research can lead you to a treasure trove of invaluable ideas, to inspire your creativity. The possibilities here are limitless.

The help you need is within your reach

If you have read the books, gathered the ideas and created something truly worth investing in, there is no shortage of people who can help you.

If you do something worth investing in, people will eagerly invest their time, energy and their money in you.

The expertise you need is within your reach

There are people, books, courses and audio programs within your reach, which can provide you with the expertise you need.

Oh… and if you think getting the expertise you need is expensive, wait until you see the price you will pay for ignoring it.

The key word in this blog post is reach

Whatever is holding you or your business back right now, can only do so if you allow it to. Those hurdles can be overcome, because everything you need is within your reach. The knowledge, contacts, investors, help and ideas are all there — but you need to reach for them.

Read the books, search for the ideas, seek out the people and get the expertise you need. Once you make that commitment and back it up with action, nothing can stop you. Nothing.

10 Daily decisions to help you reach your business goals

decision making, goal setting

Setting a goal is simply a statement of intent. Your daily actions are what make it happen!

I was thinking about that yesterday, when Susan from Queens, New York emailed me. She was wondering why she sets inspiring goals every year, yet by June the inspiration has faded and the goals are little more than a memory. She’s tired of living the same old year, over and over again.

As this is a very common challenge, I decided to share my answer with you, along with 10 small, daily decisions that will help you achieve your business goals. 

Why your BIG goals need a little help

Inspirational goals are BIG picture targets. This is what makes them so motivating. However, to achieve them, you need to focus your mind and efforts on small, daily decisions.

These decisions are what lead to the attainment of your big picture goals.

For example, here are 10 small, daily decisions that can help you grow a great business:

  1. The decision to care more about your clients, than you care about your fees.
  2. The decision to feed your mind with rich, mental protein. The business owner who knows the names of the judges on a TV talent show, but can’t name the 10 most influential people in their industry, sets a low bar on their potential.
  3. The decision to associate with great people, who will motivate you and encourage you.
  4. The decision to work when you’re at work AND to relax when it’s family and friends time. You are at your best when there’s a balance between work and play.
  5. The decision to offer exceptional customer service and exceed expectations, rather than do what’s required. In other words, out-care your competitors.
  6. The decision to place a huge value on your time.
  7. The decision to measure your progress every day. This allows you to quickly spot if you’re mistaking activity for productivity.
  8. The decision to avoid the costly detours, which come disguised as shortcuts to success.
  9. The decision to give your business the resources it needs. Cold Hard Fact: ANY area of your business that’s failing is only doing so because you’ve refused to invest correctly. You need to make better decisions than that if you want to survive, let alone thrive.
  10. The decision to focus on what you want [as entrepreneurs do], rather than focus on what you fear [as typical small business owners do].

Making it work for you

Those are all decisions that business owners are faced with daily. In the vast majority of cases, these decisions are made without them being a deliberate part of a specific goal. They are made in isolation, depending on what’s happening in that moment.

You need to be smarter than that, if you want to achieve the goals you have for your business. You need to be intentional.

So, set big, juicy goals that inspire you. Then map out the daily decisions you will need to make, in order to achieve them.

I hope you found this information useful. More importantly, I hope it inspires you to make better daily decisions.

To your success!

How to turn strangers into customers

marketing tips, marketing ideas, sales

Here’s an opportunity for you to gain a significant advantage over many, perhaps most, of your competitors. It’s about something I call attraction marketing.

I was prompted to write this after a business owner contacted me on Twitter. Within 5 minutes, he’d sent me several Direct Messages and then an email… each one asking me if I wanted to know about a business proposition.

The guy is a total stranger to me. All I know about him, is that he’s the kind of person who sends business proposals to strangers.

  • He could be a decent and honest man.
  • His business proposal could be genuinely valuable.
  • He may be scratching his head right now, wondering why no one is interested in his amazing idea.

The thing is, pestering people is extremely ineffective. It’s far more likely to damage his reputation, than it is to make anyone check out his business proposal.

More common than you may think

Whilst you may consider that guy’s approach to be a little extreme, many small business owners make the same kind of mistake with their marketing.

Here are a few common examples:

  • They pester us on social networks.
  • They fake interest in us at networking events, then hit us with a sales pitch.
  • They buy lists and send us spam marketing messages.
  • They add us to their newsletter list, without our consent.
  • They cold call us at work, when we’re busy.
  • They cold call us at home in the evenings, when we’re relaxing with family or friends.

Here’s the thing: Our prospective clients are programmed to ignore selfish requests, from people they don’t know. They actively avoid pests. Because of this, pests tend to get extremely poor results, which causes them to pester even more people, even harder.

If we, as legitimate business owners, adopt any of the pestering tactics used by those guys, we too will encounter the same resistance.

Thankfully, there’s zero need for you or me to pester anyone with our marketing.

Thankfully, we have a way to send people information they have asked us for, which is also commercially beneficial to us.

Thankfully, it’s not that difficult to do!

Smart entrepreneurs get it

The smartest entrepreneurs take a non pestering approach. It looks like this:

  • They focus on building relationships with people.
  • They strive to be useful.
  • They are all about bringing value.
  • They look for opportunities to earn [and re-earn] trust.

Once there’s a relationship in place and trust has been established, their messages will be welcomed. Their proposals will be taken seriously.

The marketing power of business blogging and newsletters

Business blogging is the most powerful tool I have ever known for small business owners. Newsletters come a very close second. Both are extremely powerful marketing tools. Each provide us with almost unlimited potential to reach targeted prospective clients or customers. They also allow us to earn the trust of our marketplace, as a recognised expert in our field. No pestering required!

Though you will need a strategy to make this work, the 130 feet view looks a little like this:

  • Produce useful information that’s targeted to the wants and needs of your ideal profile of client or customer.
  • Make sure there’s a short marketing message, like the one at the foot of this post, so interested people can get in touch with you when they need help.
  • Make your post or newsletter interesting and easy to read.
  • Do this regularly.
  • Soon, your first 5 readers will subscribe.
  • They will each get you 5 more.
  • This repeats over time.

Do it correctly and hundreds, thousands, maybe tens of thousands of people, will eagerly want to hear what you have to say.

By showing up regularly you have demonstrated your knowledge and eagerness to help. You have also demonstrated your reliability. These combine to help you earn the trust of your readers.

Here’s why this is so valuable to you and your business: Your readers are just like you. They hire [and buy from] people they know, value and trust.

Note: Read this. It will help: 25 Reasons to Write a Business Blog

Attraction marketing

Regardless of the marketing tools a small business owner chooses to use, one thing remains the same. Pestering people for what you want is extremely ineffective. When people push their message at us, we push back. We block or mute their social networking accounts. We delete their emails unread, as soon as we see the sender’s name. We hang up the phone, as soon as we hear them start their pitch. We avoid them at networking events.

So, focus on attracting clients or customers, rather than pestering or pursuing them. Build a reputation, a big reputation, for your expertise and the contribution you make to your marketplace.

Oh, and make it easy for prospective clients or customers to contact you… because after you create an attraction marketing strategy, that’s exactly what they will do.

Is your marketing motivated by greed, need or deed?

marketing tips, marketing ideas, sales

You’re a wonderful person with a superb business. However, is that message coming across in your marketing?

Think about it — small business owners tend to market their services motivated by 1 of the following:

  1. Greed motivated: I want your money. Buy my stuff.
  2. Need motivated: I need you to buy from me because I’m in a tough financial situation. Please buy my stuff.
  3. Deed motivated: There’s something that I believe will help you, so I created it for you.

Greedy marketing turns people away. It’s ugly. It’s selfish. It’s an attribute that is universally disliked in people.

Needy marketing turns people away. It makes us panic. People are highly unlikely to risk hiring you or buying from you, if they believe you’re likely to go broke.

Deed driven marketing attracts people. Your message of contribution and service makes people feel good about you. It’s an easy message to connect with, believe and share.

Get your message across

Those of us who are deed driven need to make sure it’s clear for the marketplace to see. It needs to form the backbone of our marketing strategy.

It needs to be reflected in what we say and what we do, so here’s how to get that message across in your marketing.

5 steps to increase the success of all your written marketing

Content Marketing, copywriting

Today’s post will show you a way to massively improve the effectiveness of any important content you write. It will also show you how to avoid one of the most common and damaging copy writing errors.

Stop limiting your options

Most people will write their initial piece of content, call it their draft copy, then tweak it until it’s as good as they think they can make it.

The challenge with that approach is that you are working from the mindset that the initial draft is the best foundation for the content. This is almost never the case! You need to write from the best foundation possible, not simply the first draft you write down.

The most effective content comes from experimenting with ideas and one of the best ways to get new ideas, is to refuse to restrict yourself to working from one perspective.

In other words, instead of writing an initial draft and then building on it, you commit to writing your message in 5 or more different ways. By writing the content in a number of different ways you open up new possibilities, which often lead to breakthrough ideas that make your content massively more compelling.

Yes, it takes longer than writing from one perspective and hoping it will work, but the goal of your content writing is not to write as fast as you can – it’s to write the most commercially valuable content you can.

It works like this

  1. Write down exactly what you want to achieve from your content, so you know what your outcome is.
  2. Next, write down what kind of action you want the reader of your content to take. For example; email you, call you, visit your premises, fill in your survey, etc.
  3. Then, write 5 pieces of content, which address the previous 2 points as clearly as you can.
  4. Remember, you are not looking for 4 revisions of your initial piece of content, but 5 fresh perspectives to help you achieve the outcomes you listed in points 1 and 2.
  5. Finally, look for the most compelling of your 5 pieces of content, then build upon it.

If you do that, you give yourself a greater chance of writing your content from your best foundation – not just the one you thought of first.

Yes, sometimes that initial version will be the best, but every time it isn’t, you will have improved the quality and effectiveness of your writing.

Do you want more great clients to hire you?

marketing, esteem, relationships

If you just answered “yes” then today’s post is just for you. I’m sharing an important part of the sales process with you, which is seldom talked about. It’s something that you can use, in order to develop great relationships with your clients, contacts and the marketplace in general.

Let’s look at esteem

One of the basic human needs is esteem. In business, we know that boosting the esteem of others, by showing them respect, is a powerful way to build great relationships. It improves how people feel about us and because business is all about people, it’s of massive commercial value.

The opposite is also true. If people feel we’re trying to lower their self-esteem, by disrespecting them, it can ruin relationships and damage just about every part of our business. I wrote about that here: How to avoid arguments and build great client relationships.

Here’s a great example of how important esteem and respect are. It was sent to me by a reader and I’m sharing it with is permission.

Here’s what happened

Apparently, George [not his real name] wore his new Apple Watch to a meeting with a prospective client. The meeting was just to iron out a few formalities and get a significantly large contract signed.

“[…] I realized during the meeting that the prospective client was becoming increasingly prickly with me. In previous meetings he’d been friendly and cool. This time he’d started off that way but for no reason his mood got worse. After half an hour, even though he’d invited me there to sign the deal, he’s now saying that he wants another 48 hours to make the decision!!”

George went on.

[…] A few hours later I got an email from him saying he’d reconsidered and wasn’t going to sign the deal with my company. To say I was shocked is an understatement and he gave me no reason. I then emailed him back to ask what the reason was and he said that clearly the contract didn’t matter to me because during the meeting I kept signalling for him to hurry up. He was wrong. I’d never do anything like that and this was a big deal for us in every way. So I called him and asked what he meant. He said that I kept looking at my watch as if to say “come on, get on with it I ain’t got all day”!

I then realized what happened. I’d set my Apple Watch to silent but it was tapping my wrist every time I got a message during our meeting. It was the first time I’d wore the watch out and the taps on my wrist were new to me. I must have been glancing down at it each time I got a tap and to the other guy, it looked like I was constantly checking the time. I explained what happened and thankfully he understood.”

 2 valuable lessons

I think there are 2 valuable lessons here.

  1. When you are speaking with someone, make sure they have your full attention. Maintain eye contact and listen patiently without butting in [or checking your watch / phone]. By giving people your full attention, you are demonstrating that you respect what they have to say. This boosts their esteem and improves how they feel toward you. It also helps you develop rapport with them, which makes business conversations flow far easier.
  2. Make sure that if a prospective client chooses not to hire you [or buy from you], their reason is valid. If somehow they’ve missed a key point or they misunderstood your offering, you could needlessly lose their business, by failing to seek and deliver clarity. In the above example, a significant contract would have been lost, had George not followed up with a phone call.

I hope that you found this post useful. If you did, please share it with your friends.

How to avoid arguments and enjoy great client relationships

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I witnessed an argument yesterday, between a business owner and one of his customers. It was noisy, public and has lost the business owner at least one customer. The whole situation could have been avoided, with the tip I’m going to share with you in today’s post. Here’s what happened, along with a valuable business lesson.

First, here’s a quote from the 1936 classic, How to win friends and influence people.

The book’s author, Dale Carnegie, said; “Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say, you’re wrong! to them.”

You are right. They are right too. Maybe!

When someone disagrees with us, it’s easy to think that they are wrong. This is especially the case when we truly believe that our opinion is right.

Here’s the thing: It’s entirely possible that their opinion and our opinion are both correct, even when we see things very differently.

For example:

  • I really dislike the taste of almonds. In my opinion and in my experience, almonds taste disgusting.
  • You may love the taste of almonds. In your opinion, they taste absolutely delicious.
  • If we went through a lie detector test, we would both be proven to be telling the truth — even though our answers were 100% different.

That’s the thing about opinions. When an opinion is given as an answer, it’s usually one of dozens, maybe hundreds, of possible correct answers.

How one retailer got it very wrong

I was prompted to write this post, after listening to a business owner arguing with one of his customers. The argument took place yesterday in a cycle shop.

Here’s what happened.

The customer asked if the retailer stocked a particular brand of tyre. The retailer asked why the customer wanted that brand. The customer explained that in his experience, it was the best on the market. The retailer then insisted the customer was wrong. He even went so far as to get his iPad out and show some negative Amazon.com reviews of the tyre.

Incidentally, I would have picked a different brand of tyre than either of those picked by the customer or the shop owner. That’s because depending on our experience with different brands of tyre, we will have formed different opinions.

Anyhow, the customer walked out of the shop, shaking his head in frustration. After the confrontational stance the retailer took, and his raised voice, I doubt the customer will ever return — especially as he now knows he can get the tyre he wants, for less, on Amazon!

The retailer had a smug grin on his face, assuming he’d won the argument. What he’d actually done, was lose a customer by showing zero respect for the customer’s opinion and turning a sales enquiry into a heated argument. I’m not sure any business owner can sustain too many victories like that.

Turning a difference of opinion into a valuable opportunity

We don’t have to agree with everyone. What we should do, however, is learn to respect their right to their opinion.

Indeed, we can use our difference of opinion as a way to create a useful dialogue. We can even use it to deepen our relationship with customers, clients or contacts.

For example, here’s an effective way to handle a business situation, when your opinion is different from the other person.

  • Explain that all you’re interested in, is finding the best solution for them. This places both of you on the same side. The difference this makes to the tone of the conversation is huge.
  • Give the other person the opportunity to say what they want to say, without butting in. By allowing them to get their point across, they will feel less tense and feel more positively toward you, for showing them respect and recognition.
  • If you believe they’re incorrect or about to make a mistake, you should offer them another perspective. Note: You’re not arguing with them. You’re offering them your perspective based on your experience and expertise.
  • Then, offer an example of how your suggested approach has worked in the past, for people with similar challenges. This is massively more effective than looking for holes in their position and bombarding them with reasons why they’re wrong.
  • Ask them what they think and listen again without butting in.
  • Because there’s no confrontation, no argument to be won or lost, the other person is free to consider your opinion. They can now agree with you, without losing face.

Does this approach magically win around everyone, whose opinion is different from yours? No.

However, I’ve used this approach since starting my business in 1995 with huge success. It has gained me many clients and many good friends too. Equally, it has never lost me a client — unlike the kind of confrontational approach, used by the store owner in my example.

Interestingly, I’ve always found this approach to be massively more effective at helping others see things my way, than attacking their opinion.

Respect never gets old

The technologies we use today are very different from those, which were used when Carnegie wrote that amazing book. However, business is still all about people. Showing respect for others and their opinions, is just as important today as it was in 1936.

5 Great ways to make time work for you

timing, time management

In today’s post, I’m sharing 5 ideas with you that are all based on the same important theme… time. Here they are, in no particular order.

  1. Consistently showing up on time, is a great way to build a reputation for reliability. The marketplace values people who can be relied upon to turn up. It’s also one of the hallmarks of a true professional.
  2. Sending your mailing or newsletter out at the right time, is essential if you want to maximise its effectiveness. Despite what some people claim, there is no set time, which is correct for every business or every industry. You need to test different times and measure the feedback. In a relatively short time, you’ll know exactly when to publish.
  3. Learning how to get the most from your work time, is the key to exceptional productivity. Much has been written on time management. The key thing is to learn how to do first things first. Rather than respond to the day and the whims of others, set your day out, in order, and make that your framework. It also pays to regularly ask yourself; “Is this the best use of my time, right now?” If the answer is No, go and do whatever you should be doing.
  4. Showing respect for other people’s time, is an important professional development skill. Here’s why: People are busy. As a result, they’re instantly turned off those, who waste their time.
  5. Finishing projects on time, is so rare that it sets you head and shoulders above the competition. In this post, I explain how you can also build trust using this simple idea.

I hope you found these useful. If you did, invest some time putting at least one of these points into action.

What you need to know about networking groups

networking groups

People often ask me for tips on how to get better results from their networking groups. In today’s post I am going to share an idea, which is seldom covered regarding networking. Yet, it’s the core reason why networking groups fail for so many business owners.

Let’s start by being very clear about why small business owners join and attend networking groups. The primary reason they give me, is that they want to connect with people, who may be a source of referrals or connections, which lead to new clients or customers.

That’s what I’m going to focus on here. I’m also primarily addressing physical networking groups, though the concept works for online networking too.

Getting the word out

When a business or project is new, it needs a push. The word can’t spread until you, as the business owner, start talking. In the early days, connecting with people who can help you spread the word is essential.

However, once a business is established or a project is no longer new, you shouldn’t need to keep attending networking groups, in order to get leads. There’s no need to keep pestering people to recommend you.

Here’s why:

  • Remarkable services spread.
  • Remarkable stories spread.
  • Remarkable resources spread.

Once you get the word out. Once people have heard about what you do. Once you start delighting your first clients or customers, the word will spread and you will attract regular enquiries from eager, prospective clients.

A remarkable problem

Of course, the typical small business owner chooses not to build a remarkable business. They want to play it safe and be just like their competitors.

For example, think about the service providers in your town, who are in the same industry as one another. They offer a very similar range of services, make very similar promises and charge very similar fees. They’re totally, utterly unremarkable.

So, instead of attracting high quality enquiries from eager clients, they need to push, push, push. This is where networking groups come in.

An unremarkable business has no legs

No matter how well the owner of an unremarkable business “works the room” at networking events. No matter how aggressively they push members of their networking group for leads… there’s a limit on what they can achieve. It’s a pretty low, uninspiring limit too.

They may, just may, manage to make an average living, doing average work, charging average fees to average clients.

Eating soup with a fork

Focusing on the best way to generate great clients or customers via networking groups, is like seeking the fastest way to eat soup, using a fork.

Yes, with practice you may be able to eat soup faster with a fork than the average business owner. But any business owner using a spoon, will make 100 times more progress than you.

You can get results from networking groups, but nothing like what you can achieve, when you learn how to attract clients through the effective marketing of a remarkable service.

Looking for better ways to push an unremarkable service at people is far less effective.

P.S. Here are 4 ways to attract more clients or sales enquiries.