Who do you listen to?
I ask you this, because everything that you pay attention to has an influence on you, to a lesser or greater degree. This is why it’s so important to be selective about the people we connect with. In business, these “voices” can be the difference between massive success and total commercial failure.
This brief post is about the influence that pessimists and optimists have on us.
Pessimistic voices
Business owners, who listen to enough pessimistic voices, find it hard to remain positive. That’s because the influence of pessimists, makes it all too easy for us during the winters of our business lives, to think that summer will never arrive. All of us get disheartened from time to time and when this happens, the last thing we need is someone bringing us down further. And then, when times are great, the pessimist will tell us that it won’t last – than doom and gloom are around the corner.
Pessimists seldom achieve anything positive, because opportunities have a habit of avoiding them. It’s not that the opportunities don’t exist for them, but the pessimist mindset is blind to the potential for gain. Little wonder that for pessimists, the future is something that should be faced with apprehension.
We simply can not allow the toxic impact of pessimists to influence our lives, if we want to be happy, healthy or wealthy.
Optimistic voices
Business owners, who listen to enough optimistic voices, find themselves expecting the best. Now, as we tend to get from life what we expect, it makes sense to expect the best right?
Optimism is like a virus. It’s infectious. I tell you, spend 20 minutes speaking with an informed optimist and it’s as refreshing as a good night’s sleep! Spend that same amount of time listening to a pessimist complaining, and you will feel tense and stressed.
Optimism isn’t about going through life or business without a plan, blindly expecting the best; it’s about believing that whatever happens, there’s a way to turn it around, to make things better.
Optimism breeds confidence; both internally and externally. It encourages people to see our dreams and believe in them. An optimist with the right plan can achieve pretty-much anything. Give that same plan to a pessimist and they won’t even read it. They will just say; “what’s the point?”
The bottom line: By deliberately listening to the right influences, we can make our business (and our lives) a lot easier, less stressful and more rewarding!
What have your experiences been? Have you been impacted by listening to the wrong kind of influences?
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You’re so right, Jim. This post is incredibly important now, as so many people are still crying poverty over the state of the economy. Yes, it’s a tough time out there, but opportunities can still be found – typically by the optimists who are attracting positive energy.
Thanks for the great reminder.
There’s a benefit to being aware of the negatives so that appropriate contingency plans can be made. Pessimistic people can be useful (in “short and sweet” doses) for gaining insight into flaws that might otherwise be missed.
As well as external voices, there are those internal voices in your head that doom or motivate – it’s definitely useful to do something about the “doomy” ones to neutralise their corrosive influence.
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Both voices are valuable, but I prefer the voice of an optimistic-realist (a.k.a. pragmatist).
The good ones live life pretty much the way you outlined, “Optimism isn’t about going through life or business without a plan, blindly expecting the best; it’s about believing that whatever happens, there’s a way to turn it around, to make things better.”
p.s. Thanks for being an optimistic voice!
Hi Jim
This sounds like a classic Jim Rohn seasons tip, and I agree that we need to be careful what and who we listen to for risk that we are influenced by the wrong things. Stephen Covey talks about stimulus response and how our lives are dictated by choices. I have long since moved on from the simple concept of positive affirmations because without discipline and making the right choices we are deluding ourselves (another wise peice of advice from Jim Rohn). Alwyas keen to read your posts.
Yours.
Julian
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I think this is a huge deal when you are first starting out. I was shocked to see how many people resent you for wanting a different life and having the courage to go for it. Sometimes I think you have to be a little insane to try to start your own business cause it will teach you who your friends really are..
That said over the top optimism can also be a bad thing because sometimes you need a reality check. Still having someone believe in you is such a nice thing..